We are set up to fail in our home.
The home has been demonised over the last few decades.
There is no societal value placed upon the skill set required in the ‘fostering of and tending to, of the home environment’.
Much like, the little societal value, placed upon the role of mothering.
Running a home and raising children are not considered ‘enough’, in isolation, by society.
These roles are considered ‘a side job’.
Thus, dismissing the HUGE invisible load that society requires, women and mothers (predominantly), to carry, in the tending to, of the home and in the raising of the next generation.
We are conditioned from a young age, that our value, as women, is supposed to come from outside of our home.
To come from moneymaking activities.
If not, we are made to feel insignificant.
‘Unseen’ and ‘less than’.
Often, guilted into returning to ‘paid work’, feeling like we need to ‘contribute’ to the family finances.
With comments like ‘Oh, you are just a mum!’.
The household skill set, is considered so insignificant by society, that we learn very little about it at school, university or anywhere else.
We are set up to fail.
To stay quiet.
To complain, but not too much because what would that say about us and our value as a woman?
Set up to feel not good enough (which for a lot of us is a ‘core’ wound).
Set up to feel overwhelmed.
Set up to take on, more and more and more….
Our home is an, ever changing, highly complex, relational environment, that requires an exceptionally diverse skill set.
For which we receive, little to no, education/training.
All whilst being expected to, carry the heaviest invisible load ever experienced.
No wonder it feels hard and isolating.
No wonder we feel like we are drowning.
No wonder we beat ourselves up.
Wonder why everyone else seems to be doing it better.
All the while, also being bombarded, with marketing on all the ways that we can ‘improve’, ‘renovate’, ‘decorate’ and make our homes ‘look pretty’.
The list of expectations are endless!!
It isn’t supposed to be like this.
Let’s, together as a community of women and mothers, reclaim our household power.